Ugh… These EQ Skills Are Following Me Home!

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One of the things I’ve been working on professionally has been relationship building. Especially in a huuuuge matrixed environment. Especially with so many outside partners in the work I do. And it turns out some of that is filtering its way into my home life.

Which maybe is necessary. After all, what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is mine is the mantra with which I entered my marriage. And while it’s still true, I’ve learned to become a little more generous in this marriage of ours. Just a little. Which I think is good for all of us.

We’re in the process of buying a new house for example.  I’ve given hubby the garage and the basement as a man cave – he can do what he wishes with either so long as the rest of the house is mine. Decorative selections, furniture, fixtures, etc… it’s all mine.

And I was planning on doing everything in isolation and he could observe how it would all come together as things were delivered. Kind of a good plan. After all I was generous enough to give him a garage and a man cave. But strong arming doesn’t work when you’re in bed together for the rest of your lives – literally. It’s just easier to get some buy in and work through this as a partnership. Even though at the end of the day the ship’s captain is… me.

So this past weekend, we hit furniture stores together. We sat in sofas. We looked at rugs. And now that he knows what I like and I what he likes, I’m in a better place to choose things that we’ll both like.  Maybe. But the partnership, getting some input and making decisions together? It kind of feels good. I’m going to want him to hang out with me in all parts of the house after all, and not in that man cave all by himself.

 

 

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Jessica Lee
Jessica Lee is director of digital talent strategy for Marriott International. In this newly minted role, she leads their talent related digital and social media efforts for the Marriott International family of brands... which means she blogs, tweets and plays on Facebook all day. Kind of. In what she'll quickly tell you is her dream job, JLee is working to differentiate and position Marriott to most effectively optimize innovative technologies to address the brand's business needs in the talent space.  Check out the baseline of what Marriott has done on Facebook, or in this profile via Fortune Magazine in which they are called out as a social media star. Pretty freaking cool what they've done already... and she'll work to take it even further to the next level. Don't be fooled by that fancy pants digital stuff though, she's still an everyday HR gal in the trenches at the core. SPHR certified, a decade or so into trench HR life... she can whip up a corrective action plan or source for your purple squirrel in a heartbeat. Talk to Jessica via EmailLinkedInTwitter or Facebook... See Jessica's riffs and rants on Fistful of Talent here...

One Comment

  1. Rory Trotter says:

    I think there’s a lesson about the importance of engagement here (somewhere), but I’m having difficulty putting it into words.

    Entertaining post, Jessica. Thanks for sharing, and keep writing.

    Best,

    Rory

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