Stan Hates His Boss, But He’s Really Just a Bum Employee

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Your friends who hate their jobs—we all have them… and its brutal to talk to them, isn’t it? Man, I just cringe when I ask them how their week was—I know negativity and moaning is coming back at me. When they start in about their bad jobs, bad boss, etc., I get responses that are like unfunny Norm moments from Cheers.

Stan’s my friend who really gets under my skin. He’s the one who blames his manager for all that is wrong in his world. You knew this kid in high school—“I would totally be the starting pitcher, but Coach hates me.” Sure, Skippy, you’re Cy Young. Coach is what’s holding you back.

You also meet people like Stan at your kid’s game, at happy hour or at neighborhood parties. Always, always talking about work:

  • Dan stuck me on the Fargo realignment team because he’s threatened by me.
  • Sally never liked me. Really, that’s why she gave the promotion to Tommy.
  • No raise for me this year – because my boss is a jerk.
  • My daughter, Sally, rode the bench this season because the coach didn’t like her.

Here’s the deal: Most managers or coaches want to win, perform well, hit their bonus, etc. More often than not, they are going to do whatever it takes to win. Whatever it takes. Very few sane people hamstring their own professional development just because they don’t like someone. God knows I have worked with plenty of people I didn’t like… if they performed.

When I am throwing back a chicken wing and a beer on Stan-the-neighbor’s deck, listening to him prattle on about the Fargo realignment team, I try to break down the situation and figure out where he falls on the below list.

  1. Clueless Underperformer—thinks he is doing well and is getting hosed, but he’s completely separated from reality.
  2. Self-Aware Underperformer—needs to feel better about himself, so he tells people his lack of success at work is due to the boss. Blamer.
  3. Jerk Performer—cannot understand why people can’t overlook his occasional harassment of the receptionist—he gets his numbers, right? Right?
  4. Clueless Performer—doesn’t see managing up as an important career tool—thinks blaming the boss makes him one of the guys, but it actually kills him career-wise.
  5. Hosed Performer—has a sociopath boss who would rather punish him vs. leveraging his talent. Yeah, this doesn’t happen very often.

Look, I know some people have bad bosses, but I also know that a lot of people blame their bosses for stuff that’s really on them. Stan is an example. He’s a number four, by the way. He likes being one of the boys, and he doesn’t want to do the hard leadership work that would get him promoted. But he’ll still bitch about not getting the promotion and blame the boss. Beautiful. Pass me another beer and some wings, Stan.

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RJ Morris
R. J. Morris is a talent acquisition/staffing director based out of STL with McCarthy Building Companies, a multi-billion dollar national firm. Like many others in the FOT clan, he's a sports nut who can endlessly draw the parallels between athletes, sports and the talent management game. I know, I know, as if we needed more of that.  He has 7 years of practitioner experience leading talent acquisition efforts in corporate HR and another 7 years in leadership roles on the agency side, so he gets both sides of the desk.  Talk to R.J. via emailLinkedInTwitter...

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